Having a balanced and harmonious life is absolutely essential to your level of happiness and fulfilment, yet some of us struggle to find balance in our inner lives, particularly if we are having to balance work and family in our external lives. In a world where we are all over stimulated to the point there rarely feel like there are enough hours in the day, it’s important to take some time to consider how to live a more balanced and emotionally fulfilling life, particularly as a parent.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs suggests a number of ingredients we each need to feel stable and fulfilled in our lives. This article provides a slightly different take on that hierarchy, and suggests what ingredients are necessary to have a more balanced and emotionally fulfilling life.
With such busy lives, particularly if you are raising a family, it can be difficult to grab time for yourself yet it’s very important to make the time to relax and replenish.
The analogy of taking a flight where the pilot always stresses the importance of attending to your own own oxygen mask first, before helping anyone else, applies to life, as if you are depleted to the point of exhaustion because you feel you have no time to yourself – then you aren’t in the position to support your family.
Indeed, if you’re feeling depleted and exhausted the whole time you’re not going to be able to have harmonious interactions with others. Instead, you’re more likely to have a short fuse and end up feeling grumpy, snappy and irritable. It’s therefore important you take plenty of time out for yourself to replenish and tend to your own needs.
Specifically, you want to make sure you have your own hobbies and activities that are meaningful to you, for instance, whilst it’s important to buy a car that’s suitable for the family you need to ensure you are doing stuff that’s good for your soul, for instance, if you like riding a motorbike but it’s been kept in the garage for a number of years then head to Solo Moto, renovate and repair the bike and hit the open road.
MINDSET & EMOTIONS
The thoughts you think create the feelings you feel, and at times, it can feel like you aren’t in control of your emotions as we all live in such a reactionary way, where we are reacting to the circumstances of our life rather than consciously creating the experience we want.
Whilst you might not have full control of the circumstances of your life, and certainly of how other people behave or respond to you, or how other people treat you, the one thing you do have full control of is where you focus your attention… and as the popular metaphysical saying states “where attention goes energy flows”, meaning if you focus on good things you tend to attract good things whereas if you focus on the bad you tend to attract more of the bad.
LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF
Most people in the modern world seem to be suffering with low self-esteem, low self-worth and low self-confidence. Whilst this is something we typically associate with teenagers, it affects adults too. Here are three quick tips to help you love yourself…
STOP TRYING TO FILL THE VOID
We’re often guilty of distracting ourselves from time to time, and this level of distraction is fine, but it can approach a point where it becomes unhealthy when we find ourselves chasing after external things in order to fill an emotional void; when what we really need is to fill that space ourselves with inner nourishment and self care.
STOP DOING THAT WHICH HURTS YOU
Just like how daily physical activities, such as sitting for long periods in an office chair can cause back pain, there are daily activities that aggravate emotional pain.
The most important thing, in this vein, is to find ways to avoid the activities that are causing you pain, or at least find ways that negate or manage the damage caused, such as yoga or mindfulness meditation.
GET RID OF NEGATIVE PEOPLE
Having to deal with negative and depleting people is a natural part of life, but it’s important to understand the powerful effect this contact has on your life, as scientific research now proves that negative energy from others has a tendency to rub off on you and stay with you like a virus. You therefore need to limit your exposure to negative people.