I have been married for 12 years now. Marriages require effort, nurturing. Sometimes its easy to forget that, to take each other for granted. It’s important to remember all the things you love about each other. Once you start thinking negative thoughts they tend to snowball and its hard to feel upbeat about your relationship anymore. Book that weekend away and really talk, reminisce about the good times.
I was looking at the perfect weekend breaks according to Vogue because I have neglected my wife lately. I have been spending a lot of time gaming. She does resent it, I can feel the distance between us growing. But it’s a way for me to relax and unwind to forget the pressures of work. I think the problem is we have forgotten how much fun we can have together as a couple. Instead I slope off to my gaming room and stay there for hours.
We used to laugh a lot in each other’s company now its just a list of things we need to sort out for the children and trying and failing to keep up with never ending chores. A change of scenery would do us the world of good. But the break needs to be perfect. If we manage to get that wrong, who knows it could be the straw that broke the camel’s back! I guess you can say a lot is riding on this break!
Weekend Break Inspiration
Looking at that article about weekend breaks I have lots of ideas now. The Dormy House Hotel, Worcestershire sounds like the ideal location to rekindle our romance. They have a private hot tub and a luxurious spa. Or I am equally tempted by Lime Wood Hotel, Hampshire with its secluded cabins and log fires. Actually, if we head that way, I might be able to get my mum to babysit the kids for a couple of nights!
These types of holidays even have a name, a save-cation! They are gaining popularity as people realize just how expensive a divorce is! If a weekend break can save your marriage it works out much cheaper in the long run.
Naturally a weekend break won’t work for everyone. But I know deep down we love each other so for us I think it would just give us the boost we need. A little break from the children will be restorative. The reason for this is we have built our lives around our children. They get most of our attention and focus. After school it’s about their clubs, friends and needs. Ours are never considered anymore. It’s completely different to how previous generations raised kids. It’s all consuming and exhausting!
I will let you know how we get on.