It is easy to tell your wife that you love her, but do you show her? Our words do have meaning but if they aren’t backed up by actions and gestures, they become meaningless. Most of our lives are a little bit crazy, between working, taking care of children, household chores, and other things that take our time and energy away from working on our marriage. What can you do as a husband to make sure your wife not only hears, but sees how much she means to you, that she is loved, and that she is special?
Keep Communicating and Make Time to Talk
The days go by so quickly, especially if we have many things going on that require our time and attention. It is easy to get caught up in our hectic daily schedules and forget about the simple things in life like talking. Make it a priority to set aside at least 15 minutes a day (or more) to listen to your wife no matter what she wants to talk about be it her day job, the children, or even some juicy gossip she heard. By keeping communication channels open, you are letting her know that you care about what is important to her. This will go a long way in keeping a relationship healthy and making sure your wife knows you care.
Surprise Her with a Gift for No Reason
Your wife expects to get a gift on her birthday, your anniversary, and Valentine’s Day but how about once in a while giving her a little gift for no reason just to let her know that she is special? Everyone loves surprises, and your wife is no different. If you are looking for some ideas of what you can give her to brighten her day, here are few suggestions:
- Leave a message on the bathroom mirror
- Gianduja chocolate
- A gift card to her favorite store
- Put a love letter in her purse
- Surprise her by cleaning the house when she is out
- Arrange a night out for her with her friends
- Show up at work to take her out to lunch
Make Sure She Has Some Time for Herself
If your wife has interests or hobbies, be sure to encourage her to pursue them and give her the time she needs. This is especially important if you have children and most of her time is spent taking care of your children’s needs. Even if both parents work outside of the home, it is usually the mother who tends to the children while juggling the responsibilities and stresses of an outside job. If your wife is a stay-at-home mom, giving her a break from being a mom and the time to do what she wants, will show her how much you value her and will be greatly appreciated.
Don’t Wait For Her to Ask, Just Do It
Most men realize even if they don’t admit it, that it is their wives who have to remind them, often, to do some of the mundane but necessary household chores. Rather than waiting for her to ask you to take out the garbage or to put your clothes in the laundry basket, just do it. This will show her that you understand what it takes to run a household, appreciate what she does on a daily basis, that you care about her, and that she is special.
Take Her Out on a Date
Think back to the time when you were dating your wife and the things you enjoyed doing together. Also, think about how you treated her at the beginning of your relationship. Chances are that you opened the door for her, held her hand, and listened intently to what she said. Plan and schedule date nights where you can bring back some of that innocence of infatuation and just enjoy the time together. How about a romantic dinner for two with a beautiful view and flowers waiting for her at the table?
It is often the little things we do as husbands that have the most impact. If you love your wife, want to make sure she knows it and feels special, try to do something little every day. With a little bit of effort on your part by remembering to show her on a daily basis how much she means to you, your wife will feel appreciated and your marriage will be strong.